No parent ever imagines these precious moments would end. We think they will be our babies forever. That is… until your teen is telling you to shove it, right?
In a previous posting for parents I identified top 3 problems parents have with their teens and how to fix them. One of those was “ My teen won’t talk to me, and when they do it’s all attitude and disrespect.”
I believe the solution is as easy as the creation of the problem. Along the way, parents forget to recognize their ‘baby’ as an independent thinker just like they are. In other words we get attached to our “babies” and forget they are human. Most times when teens are disrespectful it is because the parent is also disrespectful and have not set appropriate boundaries. When the kids are little and can’t communicate well, the boundaries are simple, but as they learn to communicate… they learn, what they live. Therefore, it is crucial that you begin to respect your child as an independent thinker just like yourself and speak to them the way you would like to be spoken to.
If you feel like you want to make that change but you don’t know where to start, try starting simple. Choose to control yourself and speak in a way you want to be spoken to. You must respect your child for them to respect you. If they mouth off simply saying “I will let you apologize when you are ready, but I want to let you know that was disrespectful and rude.”
It can be hard to enact change, but it is possible. If you feel like you don’t know where to start and could use some help life coaches are a great way to do that. For more info on how to get help shoot over to www.dreamthis.org and see how you or your teen can become a client.