Why is it every time I have a problem with my kid someone wants to blame me?

I know I have asked that question as a parent and you would not be unjustified in asking either.  After all, my advice has been that kids have their own minds, thoughts, and choose their own actions.  SO, why is it the parents fault?

Well, I hate to assign blame or fault to anyone it immediately puts people on the defensive and is counterproductive to any type of communication.

So here’s tips to get you on the right track: